“Tomorrow is another day”… for dating, for giving up, for a new start or just to say: These ten sayings annoy every single woman and should urgently be deleted from the nicely meant advice repertoire.
You have just split up or have been single for a while, two almost guaranteed life situations to get one of the following sayings. Please raise your hand, which one of you has never heard a saying like “Other mothers also have beautiful sons”?
Most sayings of this kind are well-intentioned advice from friends and family, but they are often not just so well chewed and meaningless that it only annoys you as a single person. Many know the situation in which you complain to your girlfriend about your lonely and slightly desperate suffering and she, who may be happily taken, then gets out one or even several sentences of this kind. Well meant, yes. But doesn’t that make you even angrier? Also yes.
1. “Cheer up: There is a lid for every pot” Many people know this saying and the particularly bold answer from some women is often “Then I’m probably a wok”. Phew, please leave the question and such an answer.
2. “Oh, you don’t have to look. You always fall in love when you don’t expect it.” Aha, and if I’m not looking and my primarily taken friends hardly ever leave the house with kith and kin, then the potential partner will come along where from? Climbed off my sofa?
Nicely meant sayings for singles are often intended to end the topic
3. “Be a little more open” Exactly, because you don’t have to be that when dating these days. So has anyone out there tinkered with a bulleted list of expectations and only gotten a single hit? As a rule, you usually lower the demands you make on your future partner anyway and then hearing a saying like that is just blaming yourself.
4. “Your husband has to be baked first” Meant in a funny way, but it means that you can give up the search right away because there is no partner for you and your wishes. Rarely laughed so much.
5. “Love at first sight is something for teenagers anyway”Yes, because love and feelings are age-dependent? Unfortunately not according to the truth. A teenager can find love and love at first sight, just like an older person. The great feeling of love is not measured by age and maturity.
6. “If you’re not careful, you’ll become a bitter old maid”Who does this sentence get any further? Especially when you’re already looking for a partner, it’s offensive to hear something like that. You can’t just “bake” yourself. But as an old maid, in order to fulfill even more clichés, you throw cats at this saying-knocker, like in the “Simpsons”.
7. “Men don’t like it when women are too independent” Unfortunately, this is still a widespread attitude today that only a few openly talk about. And even if that applies to one or the other man, then he who expects the 1950s housewife at the stove when he comes home like a superhero and brings the money with him is probably not the right one.
Me-time and loneliness are two different things
8. “You need to change your prey pattern” to then date someone I hate to look at or whose ramblings make you fall asleep? There is no guarantee that there will be someone on the dating market who fits, no matter what your look or what your character, job or hobby is. Then why orientate downwards for your own taste?
9. “The right one for you is yet to come” or “You’ll find someone better” This isn’t set in stone anywhere and sentences like this are often used to describe the topic of being unhappy, for example, quickly and more or less elegantly off the table to get.
10. “It’s so nice to be alone, I miss it a lot.” It’s wonderful when you hear something like that from your married girlfriend with children and your ears are ringing with the silence yourself. Everyone wants to have more or less time alone for themselves. Nobody usually wants to be alone or even lonely all the time.
